Life is meant to be enjoyed, not to be endured is the popular maxim holding sway in the world over. And the enjoyment of life doesn’t border or rest solely on material acquisitions. It’s far way more than that. Everyone aspires to be great in life, to be a force to reckon with in the society, to be a pacesetter of good milestone of massive achievement but not everyone is ready to go through the due process. While the due process that serves as the sine qua non for success seems daunting, it is not impossible to go through. But the joyful thing is that it requires no strength or muscle-flexing. It’s a function of our character that builds up to our attitude. Our attitude, it was opined, is a function of our character. Our character is the height of our achievement, the durability of our relevance, the importance of our presence, the relevance of our contribution to nation building, the versatility of our skills, the flexibility of our being to divergent circumstances and the numerous blessings and recognition we receive from friends, folks, kinsmen and well-wishers.
Good attitude seems to be a commodity most people cannot afford. People don’t really place so many importance on having the right attitude towards life. There’s a limit to how much power, prestige, possession or property can go. There’s a limit to how much influence and connections can go. And unfortunately, our thinking had been distorted to invariably believe that nothing the above qualities and luxury cannot achieve. Everyone will like to ride on the crest and strength of that to achieve anything they set out to do. But with the right attitude, the sky might just be the starting point. Attitudinal deficiency is a life-threatening disease and has no medicinal, scientific or herbal cure. No matter how far and wide we travel looking for the potent drug to cure attitudinal deficiency that I called “attituditis”, we won’t come across one except we look inward. Where money and power seem to have set their limit (they will surely set their limit), a good and right attitude will take things up from there. Many a people have gotten big and life-changing opportunities elude them due to the projection and exhibition of a wrong attitude. A popular maxim says we’ll be addressed the way we’re dressed. But not in all occasion. An occasion might exclusively need you to dress the way the fashion trend dictates the pace but I guess it’s all occasions that require you to dress for recognition and success to put on the regalia of a good attitude.
What is attitude?
Almost everyone knows what an attitude connotes. Everyone has his or her own definition of it. Attitude is the summation of your character. It’s the total sum of the habits that you have exhibited, nurtured, and incubated that metamorphosed into a character which later forms the basis for your attitude. Your charisma and carriage are a by-product and a true reflection of your character. While your character works from behind the scene, your attitude boldly faces the camera for the public glare of all and sundry, either good attitude or the opposite. It’s a direct expression or exhibition of who you are. It is a reflection and an embodiment of your personality. Your attitude is like a price tag, it shows everyone how valuable you are. Your attitude toward others determines others’ attitude toward you.
To get the obvious out of the way, attitude isn’t something a girl gives to you when you praise her before being friends with her. And attitude is definitely not something you show to the same girl after she accepts your compliment and now wants to be your friend. Attitude, in every sense of it has more connotations to it than just being used as a slang statement among the youths. Technically, attitudes are evaluative dispositions related to a person, object, or event either favorable or otherwise. They reflect our tenacious disposition to react and behave in a certain way towards people and situations. It’s the mirror through which the world sees us and forms an opinion of its own about us. And such opinions will either portray us as good or bad.
There’s virtually nothing we can do about it after such an opinion is formed. We can only take charge at the outset and dictate the pace for the kind of opinion the world forms about us. The first impression lingers on in the mind and once it settles down, it forms the basis of perception for the world. That’s why a good deportment of ourselves will do the perfect job of evangelism for us. A negative attitude is like a flat tyre. If it’s not changed with a good tyre of the right and positive attitude, we are going nowhere.
Many a qualified candidate have squandered and missed out on being employed for jobs. The right attitude equals respect and reverence for others and elders. There was a scenario where a mass interview was to be conducted and the interviewees were jostling for a right of place by rushing up the stairs to the interview room. None of them noticed a man who was trying to use the staircase as well. It was just one of them who stopped so that the man could use the staircase without hindrance. The man happened to be the General Manager of the company. The young man who allowed him to use the staircase was appreciated by being the only one that was employed, whether he qualified for the portfolio or not didn’t matter.
Attitude is everything. It is an embodiment of what possibilities and breakthroughs represent. Where certificates encounter difficulty, a good attitude makes an inroad.
Attitude is 100%. It’s non-negotiable. Let’s do some numerical calculation of the alphabets that make up ATTITUDE: A+ T+ T+ I+ T+U+D+E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%
It means we must not live below par. It means we must not live short of the quota of a sterling quality of an attitude that mesmerizes others. Attitude is reciprocal. It has a bit of a leaning to the law of sowing and reaping. People will show us the same kind of attitude we show them.
We’re not talking about attitude towards people alone. Let’s dissect two areas of major importance.
ATTITUDE TOWARDS PEOPLE
Have you ever heard of anyone who single-handedly achieved greatness? I don’t think so. I haven’t heard of a man who’s an island unto himself. No man has ever paddled the affairs of any organization successfully without the 100% assistance and input of other people. Hence the reason why people employ people to tap from their wealth of experience in a particular chosen field of specialization to build an empire of business. The first entity and factor that lead to success is people. This now poses a poser on how we treat people. How do you handle people? The way we handle people stems out of the attitudinal leaning and allegiance we hold towards them. Our character towards them determines the number of people we are able to attract, how long they hang around us and a direct determinant of the ‘positives’ we are able to extract from them. The law of life has no partiality inherent in it. If we exude bad and negative character or attitude, we’ll attract the set of people who have negative attitude, people who are pessimists by nature and choice. And let us not think that good things will come out of such an affiliation. It never will. We can never shy away from the greatest resources bestowed and bequeathed to us by God, which are people. We must know how to deal with people as the resources God committed into our care. “People are more difficult to work with than machines. And when you break a person, he can’t be fixed” – Rick Riordan
HOW TO HANDLE PEOPLE
Let’s explore how to handle PEOPLE
P-Pay attention to people
I guess you love to feel loved. You want someone to listen to you. Let us replicate the same yearning in people. There are many who want a shoulder to lean on in the embodiment of a listening ear. They want to voice out their pains, their grievances, their grouse and they also want others to benefit from their jolly plans and ideas. Let us try as much to pay attention to people so as to make them feel loved. The greatest investment of all time is giving out of your time to other people.
Let them know they are important. Let them feel welcomed especially those who are deprived of the necessities of life. Keep your embrace open and wide in form of anything you think can serve them in anyway it can. And remember, don’t look down on people. Never try to commit that costly blunder. By treating people equally, we will entertain angels unawares.
On the voyage of dealing with people, handling people and catering for them, offenses are inevitable and non –negotiable. Some of them will still take your lofty aspirations for granted and they will rubbish it. It is implicit in human’s reactions to feel offended. What matters most is the way you ingeniously handle it so that it won’t deter you and derail you from your noble path. You either allow an offense mar you or make you. But I am sure you don’t want to abandon what you have started. Handling an offense involves maturity.
P-Plan your day having people in mind
Each passing day is always planned ahead. Even the time allocated to us by nature is not enough to handle stuffs. But we can painstakingly integrate people into our schedule. Including them in the sense that squeezing out the time to be of immense benefit to them in whatever projection.
L- Learn from people
No man is an island of knowledge. Life is all about giving and taking. You give and you take. You don’t know all things, hence the reason why you are still learning. You cease learning when you cease existing. Learn from the experiences and mistakes of others. Don’t be too proud to stoop low to learn from your subordinates. The acquisition of the highest degree is not ipso facto the automatic knowledge of all things. There are many areas you still need to fortify yourself with when it comes to learning. Learn from as many people as you can, as much as you can, as fast as you can, for as long as you can and life becomes so sweet.
Let people be beneficiaries of what you know. Impart your knowledge into them. Share your expertise with them. There are various media by which you can do that. You can go by the way of blogging or using the various networking sites all around us. You will notice a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction settles in you when you do. And your name is inscribed on a platter of gold as a result.
ATTITUDE TOWARDS MONEY
Money is the root of all evil is the popular misinterpreted maxim. But money is not the root of all evil against the popular maxim that rents the air. Money is a good thing. It is the legal tender for the exchange of commodities in the world over. It is the predominant necessities of life and everyone wants to have money. With money, you can have the luxury of life like driving posh cars, wearing the trendiest cloths in vogue, living in a mansion, traveling around and you can easily draft out an expansion plan for your business. Money is a spirit and it is so sensitive. The right attitude towards money makes it stay with you and multiply while a negative attitude keeps it away from you despite the fact that you earn a bogus salary. That is why it is puzzling that someone who earns a big salary has nothing to show for it while someone who earns stipends is doing fine. It is a function of the right attitude.
What are the right and the wrong attitude towards money?
THE RIGHT ATTITUDE
Money will stay with you if you know how to save. Savings discipline is hard to adopt but it’s needful to build a fruitful life. Savings boosts your confidence and prepares you for opportunities. A savings mentality is a rich man mentality. Opportunities can show up anytime that might involve investing some money to get a bountiful harvest. When opportunity meets preparation, the sky won’t even be a limit. It implies you are exhibiting the right attitude towards money.
The excuse behind which all of us hide is that the money we earn is always not enough. The more money we earn the more the responsibilities and expenses. Parkinson’s Law of money says expenditure will always rise to meet income. People always take solace in this law to justify the reasons why they always run out of money. The point is that it is a good excuse. Now, this is where financial discipline comes in. Let us try as much as we can to cut down unnecessary expenses. Cutting down on unnecessary is the key to savings. Other forms of investment are giving and tithing. WHEN YOU SAVE MONEY NOW, IT WILL SAVE YOU IN THE FUTURE.
THE NEGATIVE OR WRONG ATTITUDE
Lavish spending or squandering makes money run away from you. Nothing makes money run away from you as much as a wasteful spending. Wasteful spending doesn’t lend credence to savings. Even, it is always looking out for how to spend that which is saved. If you are the type given to living an extravagant life that bursts or that is more expensive than your income, you won’t have savings. If you love buying articles of ostentation and always want to be in the grove, then you are exhibiting the wrong attitude towards money. What money does is that if it doesn’t feel accepted or loved through wasteful spending, it relocates where its value will be appreciated.